7 Tips: How to Save a Marriage on the Brink of Divorce
One problem with divorce is that it attacks the most precious
phenomenon of human experience - love. Today, I want to show you some practical
ways to save a marriage on the brink of divorce. But before I start let me
first tell you why you should save your marriage from divorce.
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Your vow: Remember the vow you took on your wedding day before God and men to be
faithful and to live together till you path in death.
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The seed of your marriage: Your marriage has two seeds – love and children. One
must surely exist else it will be a fatal disaster. If not for love’s sake that
binds you two, consider the children – a product of that love.
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The sacredness of marriage: Marriage is the oldest institution established by God
himself in the Garden of Eden. It is not like dating where you can easily quit.
In marriage both of you become one flesh.
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Happiness: There is no happier relationship than yours and so don’t think that the
green light you’re seeing outside your home will lead you to a happier
relationship. Make your family homely and you’ll be happy.
Okay let us now delve into the crux of the matter on
how to save a marriage on the brink of divorce.
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#1. Stop the blame Game
When you feel like your marriage is collapsing, don’t
immediately point accusing fingers at your spouse. Take time and consider your
own contributions to the cause of the problem. Be matured to own up to your
wrong and try to better your own part first. No one enjoys being called ‘the bad
one’.
#2. Stop making comparisons
There is no perfect marriage. That flourishing marriage
you envy is simply a family that knows how not to wash their dirty linens in
the public. Stop making that unhealthy comparison, it will only lead you to
envy and ungodly ideas. Take time to make your home the best it can be. Invest
in your family by reading books and online guides as you’re doing now.
#3. Engage a marriage therapist
Nigerian couples prefer going to religious leaders to
counsellors or marriage therapists. Well whichever, just make sure the person
is abreast enough with family matters. Try to practise their suggestions and
make sure to go with your partner if possible.
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#4. Reminisce your early days
Good memories renew love and filters hatred. Casting
your mind back to your early days will help put you back to track – the very
reason you loved the person and the promises you made to each other. All these
will open up your heart to accept your spouse back.
#5. Forgive
Forgiveness loosens the fetters of hate in your heart
and gives your reason to reconsider. Without forgiveness, you cannot think
aright. You have to forgive both yourself and your spouse, don’t sink in
self-pity. Growth comes with change and change can be painful at times.
#6. Dialogue
One of the best ways to resolve conflict in any
institution is through dialogue. Listen to your spouse to hear his/her own part
of the story no matter how much you’ve been hurt. It is very imperative to
always give a listening ear, not just to hear the words but the expressions and
feelings. Know when to give space and when to engage.
#7. Resort to prayer
No matter what don’t forget this verse “Unless the
Lord builds the house, its builders labour in vain” Psalm 127:1. Let God be the
pillar of your home.
I believe that
following these few tips about how to save a marriage on the brink of divorce,
you will experience with the grace of God, a tremendous turn around in your
home, a rush of happiness and transformation for the better. Show others some
love by sharing this and let us know your experience about divorce in the
comment.
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