5 Excellent Tips on How to Have a Happy Family
A happy Family is but an Earlier Heaven_ John Bowring
Do you see happiness fading in your family? Does your heartbeat increase anytime you get close to home? Life is beautiful and heavenly when you have a happy family and no one should be denied of that. It is every man/woman's desire to be happy and such should first spring out from the very place one is most loved - family.
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Whenever I go out to the street and watch parents with their children, parents never look happy, they make a face as if their kids are burden to them. And parents in public just never look like they are happy. Below are the 5 tips on how to have a happy family
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Whenever I go out to the street and watch parents with their children, parents never look happy, they make a face as if their kids are burden to them. And parents in public just never look like they are happy. Below are the 5 tips on how to have a happy family
#1 Nurture
Quite often
parents just think that children will raise themselves, which is particularly
wrong. They are like ’just go and do what you have to do’ and then they turn
their back because the emails, the calls and the business keeps coming.
Children are like the garden, you’ve got to nurture the garden else you know
what could happen.
#2 Understanding
Try to show
some understanding to your child. Understand first of all that she is yet to
know what you know. Do not equate your experience and knowledge with hers. For
instance, instead of scolding a child for refusing to go to school in the
morning, you can say something like; “okay darling, here is what’s going to
happen; if you go to school I’m going to get you some snacks for break and
after the school is over, we’ll cook your favourite meal”. It may not work for
every child but surely you must have communicated love instead of hate to the
child. This is far from spoiling the child, unless it becomes consistent.
#3 Guide
Parents often
think more of punishing the child than correcting. It is just like bullying the
children, what I may call ‘parental bullying’. When a child do something wrong,
you don’t try to get mad at them, you try to teach them. Nigerian parents are
so prone to flogging and some go to the extreme of beating and kicking with
hands and legs, awful! You’re not guiding, you’re probably venting your anger
on that child. And surely he’ll neither listen nor learn. You can flog a child
with love. But flogging should be the last resort when you must have exhausted
all the available options like explanation, dialogue etc.
#4 Tradition
Every family
should have a healthy tradition. When I say tradition, I mean some particular
events or activities of the family that should be held inviolable, sacrosanct
and doctrinal. Let me give an instance; you may decide that every last Saturday
of each month every member of the family must gather together for a meal. It’s
strictly a moment of discussion, no television, no handset, no headphone, no
music; just the voice of people. You can also have a division of labour
according to the capacity of each child.
#5 Fun
Don’t forget
about the fun aspect of being together. Take them out. Yea! Take your children
out and see the world together, allow your children to share their feelings
with you. Take them out and buy real nice things for them. Don’t pick for them
in the mall, but be there to guide the kind of things they are going to select
for their use. Adolescence sometimes feel ashamed if you try to parent them in
the public. This may cause them loose interest whenever you call for an outing.
Sometimes parents make mistake of ignoring their children’s emotional need,
especially the fathers. It doesn’t belong only to the mother to know that her
baby girl has started seeing her flow; nothing says that Daddy shouldn’t be
involved. It’s not all about women’s thing.
I believe that
with this few tips on how to have a happy family, you will at least have an
idea of where to start in reforming your family into becoming that excellent
and enviable family. God lead you!
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